Making a good first impression
Deciding to become a Surrogate Mother is a big step. Within that choice are a million tiny experiences that will make up the journey. One of the biggest steps will come early: meeting your Intended Parent(s). For some, this step is the most nerve-wracking. But with a little help from GSHC Surrogacy Agency, we can prepare you for this first meeting so the process can smoothly run its course. Best case scenario: you become fast friends. Worst case: there’s no connection and you each go your separate ways.
The important thing to remember here is to keep everyone’s intentions at heart. This process isn’t easy for anyone on either side of the arrangement. Intended Parents experience just as much anxiety and nervousness as Surrogates, perhaps more. Remember that this step is also a big one for them. They want you to be THE ONE.
DO
Speak clearly
Chances are your meeting will take place over the phone or in a video conference. There is already a slew of technical issues that may arise so be sure to speak clearly, loudly, and directly. Don’t let anything get lost in the interaction or you may appear to be indirect, shy, or otherwise unfavorable.
Be Honest
Why do you want to be their Surrogate? This is a question you must take the time to answer yourself. There’s no shame in being open about your passion for baby-making. After all, they want to know the type of person who will be providing this gift for them.
DON’T
Discuss money right off the bat
It’s awkward and unprofessional. There is plenty of time to discuss compensation down the road, this is just a preliminary meeting. Plus, if you’ve chosen to work with an agency (and we highly recommend that you do), they will have someone in charge of that negotiation on your behalf.
Pry
As interested as you are in the fertility process, the path that brought them here may be a painful one. Don’t pry into their personal lives with embarrassing questions about failed pregnancies or their struggles to conceive. Focus on the bright future that you all will share together.
Conclusion
Remember that this is the beginning of a relationship that will last a year or longer. It’s possible that they may return and ask you to be a Surrogate for a sibling. There’s no need to present a false front or try to impress. This connection is based primarily on who you truly are. If you’re confident in your choice and feel you’re doing this for the right reasons, then don’t be afraid to let them see just what a wonderful person you really are!
To get started on your surrogacy journey with GSHC Surrogacy Agency, please complete our Surrogate Intake Form.